“Don’t Stress” is Useless Advice (Except When It Isn’t)
You’re in the middle of a work crisis. A deal falling through, a launch tanking, a system crashing. You’re scrambling, fire-fighting, thinking through contingencies. And someone—well-meaning but utterly unhelpful—says:
“Don’t stress. It’ll all work out.”
That’s like telling someone drowning to “just relax.”
At some level, they’re right. Stress, biologically speaking, makes you worse at solving problems. It clouds judgment, tightens the chest, makes your world shrink to the problem at hand. It doesn’t fix the issue; it just makes it feel heavier.
But brushing stress away with empty optimism ignores the obvious—some things require you to push, to hustle, to actively work the problem.
The Paradox of Letting Go
There’s a strange truth about reality: the more desperately you chase something, the more elusive it seems. It’s why job offers show up when you stop hunting obsessively, why ideas flow when you’re not trying to force them.
Somewhere, in the fabric of things, there’s an unseen law at play—things tend to align better when you act without desperation. When you move forward knowing you’ll figure it out, rather than fearing that you won’t.
Hustle Still Matters
But here’s the thing—letting go isn’t the same as doing nothing.
It means working without panic. Taking action without clenching. The most effective people aren’t the ones who never stress, they’re the ones who don’t let stress dictate their moves.
So yes, it will work out. But also, yes, get back to work.