Entrepreneurship is a bet on yourself.
You take the risk. You push through failure. You repeat.
But love? Love has different rules. And when it doesn’t work, it doesn’t just hurt—it rewires you.
If you already love yourself, you frame rejection as fuel. She didn’t see my value? No problem. I’ll build something so undeniable that the world will. Scorned lovers have built empires on this mindset. It works.
But if you’re wired to be agreeable, to seek validation, love failure is dangerous. If she didn’t choose me, maybe I’m not worth choosing. That seed of doubt is subtle. It doesn’t show up in boardrooms or investor calls, but it lingers. If I wasn’t good enough for love, am I good enough for the market?
And when things get hard—as they always do—that whisper of self-doubt gets louder.
Jordan Peterson says suffering without meaning is the worst kind of suffering. He’s right.
Being rejected makes you resentful. Bitter. Angry. But none of that builds.
What builds is the next thing. A new goal, a new chase, a new frame.
Love, like success, isn’t a destination. It’s a moving target.
And if you must suffer, suffer in a way that makes you better.